Everyday interactions (verbal or nonverbal) with a child are learning opportunities for both the child and the parents/educator. I was working at a child care centre. I was to clean a preschooler after a poop. I cleaned her with a tissue and told the child to pull up her pants. She looked at me and slowly pulled her pants. I noticed reluctance in her body language and asked her if I’d cleaned her well and if everything was okay. She stopped pulling her pants and stood still. I was confused, so I called the attention of one of the educators. The educator told me I needed to hand the preschooler a tissue for her to clean herself, then I would put on gloves and use a wet wipe to clean her, after which she would pull up her pants, wash her hands, and I would remove my gloves and wash my hands. When I corrected the procedure, the preschooler smiled at me, and I sensed her relief and happiness.
A child might not have the vocabulary or confidence to express their points; parents and educators need to actively engage with a child's nonverbal cues. These few tips could be helpful as we communicate with children:
Understand that behaviour communicates: Recognise that children may express their feelings, needs, or concerns through behaviour rather than words.
Recognise non-verbal cues: Notice when a child's actions do not match what is being said, as this may indicate an unmet need or concern.
Be patient and attentive : Give children time to communicate in their own way without rushing or making assumptions.
Use observations to guide your responses: Adapt communication and caregiving based on the child's nonverbal behaviour.
Reflect and adapt your practice: Learn from each interaction and apply new knowledge to improve future communication.
Nonverbal communication plays a vital role in understanding and responding to a child’s needs. Taking the time to observe, listen, and respond thoughtfully helps children feel respected, safe, and understood.